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Dictators in democracy

There are no kings, but there are some silent dictators who try to rule us. The nation has adopted democracy, but its people have been failed to understand the democracy. The power of people is seen only during elections when people vote one leader and vote out another. These new leaders rule the people not like a leader but like a dictator, not all but most of them. I have some sympathy with politicians for their dictator like actions. They probably do it because of fierce opposition, cutthroat competition from their party and to take faster decisions because there will never be a consensus in politics.

dictators in democracy

But politicians are not the only dictators in a democratic country like India. Some small leaders rule you directly, and you don’t even realize it. As soon as you complete reading this blog, you will know most of my observations are correct. These little dictators have dominated you several times like a slave and broken your self-respect into pieces.

Start with your home, think of your father or mother, they are the leaders who run your home. Do you think they even consider your point of view? Our parents want us to follow them, listen to them without questions, without a second thought. If we don’t obey they get angry; they scold us just like a king and dictator does. Our parents prefer democracy in the nation but a dictatorship in the home.

Don’t you have a friend in your group who tries to dominate the group? I bet you do. This friend first charms the group with his initiatives to plan hangouts and his sense of humor. All friends enjoy his company and agree to his suggestions. But gradually this friend takes the whole group for granted, and he gets aggressive if you don’t like his plans and dislike the friend who disagrees with him

What about your boss or manager or team leader? Does he values your inputs or force his decisions on you? These bosses may even twist and turn the policies and processes of companies to push their independent choices. They like to enjoy the little authority over few employees; they want to be the king of few cubicles. They will take the credit if the team performs well, but if the team commits mistake they will find a scapegoat to save their face, they will not accept any responsibility. They think authority is a power and not a responsibility.

After you select a political leader in a democracy, does he behave like a democrat or like a dictator? He even takes out those from his political party who opposes his decisions. They think the ultimate power given to them is to rule and harass the people.

But at least political leaders are condemned and criticised for their kingly behaviors. But who will slam this other class of dictators like your parents, bosses, school and college principles, chairman of different private and federal institutions? They all resent dictatorship publicly, but they behave like a dictator in their small kingdoms.

Traits of a dictator:
• The decisions of dictators are non-negotiable
• They don’t give much consideration to how their decision will affect others.
• Their decision is an order; they want people to follow their orders without question.
• They will hold the grudge and punish people who don’t act exactly as per their demand.
• They try to reinforce their influence with repetitive orders and loud voice.
• They do not appreciate the praise of other leaders before them.
• They try to control the subordinates and keep implying the position at all times.
• They want people to fear them, and they get restless if anyone is better than they are.

Traits of a leader:
• The true leader takes into account the impact of his decision on others
• The explain the reasons for making decisions
• They inspire and request people to support their decisions.
• They encourage feedback about the decisions to make quick adjustments as required
• They seek other people’s trust and respect.
• They promote and learn from people who are better than they are.

You cannot handle political dictatorship directly unless you are their competition but you can manage other dictators and you should before they consider ruling you as their right.

How to deal with dictators?
• Let dictators control other people you walk away
• Do not argue with dictator but stand your ground
• Indirectly imply to them the difference between true leader and a dictator
• Use humor to manage the control freak
• Pretend to be an aggressive man whenever possible; the dictator will take you seriously.

– Amit Kalantri (Writer, Magician, Mentalist)

 

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21 new quotes on love and relationships

best quotes on relationships

1) “I cannot compromise my respect for your love. You can keep your love, I will keep my respect.”
– Amit Kalantri

2) “If a person loves you but doesn’t respect you then it cannot be a real love. It is not possible to love them without respecting them.”
– Amit Kalantri

3) “A mother gives you a life, a mother-in-law gives you her life.”
– Amit Kalantri

4) “So many love affairs don’t survive because the couple has been very loving to each other but with the time they stop respecting each other.”
– Amit Kalantri

5) “Check the history, more people died for freedom than love, people need freedom before they need love.”
– Amit Kalantri

6) “The world of romance and business works on this principle – You may be rejected several times, but not everyone will reject you.”
– Amit Kalantri

7) “People crave for more respect than love because they expect love only from few people but they want respect from everyone.”
– Amit Kalantri

8) “Be the love of your love, not the slave of your love.”
– Amit Kalantri

9) “People in love overvalue their heart and undervalue their mind.”
– Amit Kalantri

10) “Marriage is not kickboxing, it’s salsa dancing.”
– Amit Kalantri

11) “Either loyalty and love are same things, or loyalty is certainly a better kind of love than love.”
– Amit Kalantri

12) “If she says goodbye, someone else will say hi.”
– Amit Kalantri

13) “He who sacrifices his respect for love basically burns his body to obtain the light.”
– Amit Kalantri

14) “People in blind love throw away common sense, conscience, and comedy from the life.”
– Amit Kalantri

15) “Love begets love, loyalty begets loyalty.”
– Amit Kalantri

16) “In modern times couples are more concerned about loyalty than love.”
– Amit Kalantri

17) “A slip of the foot may injure your body, but a slip of the tongue will injure your bond.”
– Amit Kalantri

18) “Seed becomes tree, son becomes stranger.”
– Amit Kalantri

19) “My spouse is my shield, my spouse is my strength.”
– Amit Kalantri

20) “Starting a business with brother, either end business or ends brotherhood.”
– Amit Kalantri

21) “A family man shouldn’t trade his peace for profits, it is the job of a businessman.”
– Amit Kalantri

– Amit Kalantri (Writer, Magician, Mentalist)

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15 new quotes about reading books

best quotes on books

1) “Before this generation loses the wisdom, one advice – read books.”
– Amit Kalantri

2) “I can lend you my money, not my books.”
– Amit Kalantri

3) “One thing I will surely miss is that I couldn’t read all the good books in this lifetime.”
– Amit Kalantri

4) “Ability, experience, and books have a solution for all the problems.”
– Amit Kalantri

5) “I don’t understand this irony – valuable things like cars, gold, diamond are made up of hard materials but most valuable things like money, contracts and books are made up of soft paper.”
– Amit Kalantri

6)  “Reading is the noblest of all the hobbies, that is why people mention it so frequently in their resume even if they don’t read much.”
– Amit Kalantri

7) “If you don’t find a good teacher, find a good book.”
– Amit Kalantri

8) “For peace read books, for success read books and take actions.”
– Amit Kalantri

9) “All the successful personalities had one common element, they all liked reading books.”
– Amit Kalantri

10) “For my success, I am immensely grateful to God, my parents, my family, my friends, my teachers and to the books I read.”
– Amit Kalantri

11) “Reading doesn’t mean accepting everything you read, it means reasoning everything you read.”
– Amit Kalantri

12) “You must go to the school or to the books or on the field because knowledge doesn’t come to you, you must go to the knowledge.”
– Amit Kalantri

13) “Pages entertain me more than pictures do.”
– Amit Kalantri

14) “Words are better than weapons, wisdom is better than war.”
– Amit Kalantri

15) “People come to me for the solution of their problem, if my knowledge and experience are not enough to solve the problem, I go to my library read the relevant book and provide the solution.”
– Amit Kalantri

  – Amit Kalantri (Writer, Magician, Mentalist)